Your significant other is not a mind reader. Well, they’re most likely not a mind reader. Unless your significant other possesses some kind of mythical powers that allow them to tap into your deepest thoughts and feelings, if you don’t say how you feel, they really won’t have any idea. Despite the practice of proper communication being difficult at first, explicitly explaining to your partner how you’re feeling is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship.
Taking responsibility for your feelings is the best way to ensure that your needs are being met and you’re consistently happy in your relationship. Need some tips on how to make that happen? Keep reading to learn how Couples Counseling Costa Mesa can help you learn this valuable skill.
If you and your partner aren’t communicating properly, it can be a difficult, lonely and painful road to be on. By taking responsibility for your relationship and working on your communication skills, you can work towards a strong relationship built on mutual trust and respect.
Communication is a two-way street-If you and your partner are having trouble communicating; it is necessary that you both work towards a resolution. If both people in a relationship aren’t talking and listening effectively, it simply doesn’t work. Communication is also a delicate balance. Both partners need to do equal amounts of listening and speaking. Doing too much of one and too little of the other is almost as dangerous as not communicating at all.
Take responsibility
If you missed an important deadline at work could you tell your boss “I didn’t open my email so I didn’t know I should be working on something”? Probably not. Most likely, you’d never think about being so irresponsible at work, so why should it be allowed in your relationship? If you aren’t being an active participant in your relationship by listening, speaking, and being proactive, don’t be surprised if your significant other is starting to get frustrated.
Be forgiving
Strong communication is hard work, and it takes a while to master. Being (or having) a forgiving partner to encourage you along the way is incredibly important to your overall well being. Being forgiving also breaks down resentment and stops the incessant “blame game” that often occurs when commutation breaks down. Being a forgiving person also helps you forgive yourself, which is a great overall skill to master.
Know that this isn’t easy
Communicating and taking responsibility for yourself and your feelings take some getting used to and at the least, a little bit of work for both you and your partner. If you need some help to start in the right direction, Couples Counseling Costa Mesa can help. Couples Counseling Costa Mesa provides premier couples counseling services that can help your relationship flourish. I have years of experience necessary to help you work on your communication issues both now and in the future. Contact Couples Counseling Costa Mesa today and start working on your happily ever after.
Patrice Hooke, LMFT uses practical honest feedback and focus on the strengths of my clients to help them reach their goals. I believe that with honesty, compassion and understanding, we can all find healing and have a more fulfilling life. She is especially passionate about couples counseling Costa Mesa.